When we experience loss in our lives, it often triggers us back to all the past unresolved loss we have felt. The passing of a loved one can remind us of all those we have lost in our lives. If we haven’t dealt with past loss in a healthy manner, it may be more debilitating than it needs to be.
Loss is a natural part of life. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross gave us a model by which we can know what to expect when dealing with loss. Her theory indicates that we all go through five stages of grief – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – and that we can expect to experience each on in some capacity while we grieve.
Experience has shown me that we all experience these stages differently, and for different amounts of time. As long as we are able to maintain a sense of healthy daily functioning, grief, and the emotions that come with it, can take time to process – occasionally, it takes more time than other’s in our lives us are comfortable with.
If you are supporting someone who is grieving, there is no “right answer” – no way to answer the question “why”, and although we may search for it, there is no “right thing to say” to make things better. When we support a friend or loved one who is grieving, it is often best to be silently supportive – to simply say “I’m sorry for your loss” and to be there when they need someone to lean on.
Healthy grieving takes time – give yourself that time, don’t rush it. But if you, or someone who cares for you, is concerned about your grieving process, we can help. – Dan